After a very difficult evening, I woke this morning with a deep desire to speak with my truth friend.
What’s a truth friend you ask?
A truth friend is a wise person who is willing to tell you the truth even when it means she’ll feel uncomfortable. She’ll share what you or others are unwilling or unable to see. Simply put, she’s committed to speaking truth into your life in every circumstance.
I think we can all agree it’s easy to find people who’ll agree with us. However, finding that special person who loves you enough to speak truth into your life, that’s a challenge; and yet, one of the wisest investments you’ll ever make.
With the line of truth being blurred in almost every area, from moral conduct to the nightly news, finding the truth has become more difficult; yet, more important than ever.
I believe there are three reasons every person should make it a priority to find a truth friend.
- A truth friend can save you from making a poor or costly decision. Not only will your truth friend help you weigh out the pros and cons of making a specific decision, she’ll take the extra step and walk you through the potential outcomes of each. She has the objectivity to take a step back, the ability to put aside her emotions, and the clarity to call you out when your emotions have taken over or your perspective has been distorted.
- A truth friend can present the facts with clarity and help you hear what you are unable or unwilling to hear. Since you’ve established upfront that you want to hear the truth and you know your truth friend only has your best interest in mind, you have the assurance that what she says is out of love for you. And, her highest priority is what’s best for you and your welfare.
- A truth friend can help you see the CAUTION: FALLING ROCK AHEAD sign. Since the person you’ve asked to be your truth friend understands you respect her opinion, she is free to point out the potential pit falls ahead. She may have already travelled the road you’re embarking upon or she has the wisdom to know where it could lead you. In either case, she has the discernment to present the facts in a way that will help you take the blinders off or see further down the road.
Now that we hopefully agree on the importance of having a truth friend, you might be asking yourself, “Where can I find this type of person?”
A truth friend is not always someone you’ve known for a long time or a best friend. You might find this person in your church, at work, or in your neighborhood. The key is establishing upfront that you want this person to commit to speaking her truth to you even if what she says might cause you discomfort.
The pain of not having a truth friend will likely cause you far more pain in the long run.
Make the decision today to be on the lookout for a truth friend. The simple truth is you’ll be glad you did.